Monday, November 8, 2010

The Ten "Unchangeables"

Several weeks ago toward the conclusion of an eight-week session I took in Middle Eastern Dance (aka bellydancing), a girl in the class decided to share a great mental stress she has been carrying around for quite some time. "My belly button is way too high on my body!!!!"

Huh? I guess I had never stopped to consider that aspect. But then I thought, "How much time do we spend stressing out about things we didn't choose & can't necessarily change?"

Many, many years ago when I was in elementary school, my family participated in a seminar that outlined 10 things we were never given a choice about (note: these are technically called the Ten Unchangeables and some can argue the changeability of some of these, but that's really not my point). We learned these in a song that follows the tune of "Anchors Aweigh" but unfortunately, I don't believe the seminar-giving organization believes in YouTube (and would probably not be happy about bellydancing). Despite that, the list is pretty good & outlines the things in life that we were never given an initial choice about.
  1. Parents
  2. Physical Features
  3. Gender
  4. Brothers & Sisters
  5. Birth Order
  6. Ethnicity
  7. Place of Origin
  8. Time in History
  9. Mental Capacity
  10. Aging & Time of Death
So why stress? Those are 10 more things we don't have to worry about.


  1. Anchors Away for reals? I'm going to have to hear this one.

  2. I'll sing it for you sometime :)

  3. The tune is actually "Anchors Aweigh", and is a Naval song about heading out to sea. Naval as in Navy and not navel as in bellybuttons or oranges. (Though I did see a can of Naval Orange soda once - oranges grown on ships, perhaps?)

  4. Thanks Mom! Homophones strike again- duly noted & edited.

  5. I grew up with this song! Now I teach it in schools, camps, Bible clubs, and wherever, because it is so helpful in accepting who you are as a person. It is on youtube now, as are many of the old CI songs... Thank you for reminding me!